Sunday, November 28, 2010

The Touro Communication Club Notes - #130–December 1, 2010
Contents:
1. Quotes by T.S. Eliot and about poetry
2. UPCOMING CLUB PROGRAM: - “Professor Yearwood discusses T.S. Eliot’s poem “The Waste Land” Wednesday, December 1, 2010 @ 2 pm in Room 233.
3. Logical Fallacy of the Week # 20 – “Burden of Proof”
4. Professor Geo’s “Communication Thought of the Week”
5. Note to Communicators: “The Poetic Impulse”
6. .NEXT WEEK’S TOPIC: Let’s try again! ”Talking to Guys/Talking to Girls”
7. Upcoming Conversations - please add your topic to the list
8. What happened last week: no report

1. Quotations by T.S. Eliot and about Poetry
T.S. Eliot’s Quotations

“All significant truths are private truths. As they become public they cease to become truths; they become facts, or at best, part of the public character; or at worst, catchwords.

“Genuine poetry can communicate before it is understood.

Humankind cannot bear very much reality.

I am an Anglo-Catholic in religion, a classicist in literature and a royalist in politics.

If you aren't in over your head, how do you know how tall you are?

Quotations about Poetry:

A poem begins as a lump in the throat, a sense of wrong, a home sickness, a love sickness.
Robert Frost (1874 – 1963), American poet and winner of four Pulitzer Prizes for Poetry

“Poetry is the art of creating imaginary gardens with real toads.
Marianne Moore (1887 –1972), American Modernist poet

“Poetry is the art of uniting pleasure with truth.
Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784), English poet, essayist, moralist, literary critic, biographer, editor and lexicographer

“The poet is a liar who always speaks the truth.
Jean Cocteau (1889 –1963), French poet, novelist, dramatist, designer, boxing manager, artist, filmmaker.


2. The Touro Communication Club
Wednesday, December 1, 2010 - 2 pm – Room 223
Midtown
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
2 pm – Room 223 -Midtown
Faculty Colloquy I:
Professor Carlisle Yearwood discusses

This event is a milestone in the four year history of the Touro Communication Club. We introduce a traditional university event called a “Faculty Colloquy.” A universal collegiate tradition, a scholar shares his/her serious research with colleagues for discussion and feedback.

That is our goal today. Professor Carlisle Yearwood of Touro’s English Department will share his analysis of the first several stanzas of T.S. Eliot’s landmark poem, “The Wasteland.”

A native of Barbados and a published poet, Professor Yearwood has degrees from Pace University and City College of New York (CUNY). He has owned two bars and a nightclub which focused on talent development in Harlem and was involved with the Civil Rights movement with CORE and created an after school English and business skills program in Harlem. He is a member of the Blind Beggar Press.

Thomas Stearns Eliot (1888-1965) was an American-born English poet, playwright and literary critic, arguably the most important English language poet of the 10th century. “The Wasteland’ was written in 1922. He was awarded the Nobel Prize in Literature in 1948.

3. Logical Fallacy of the Week #20:
“Fallacy of the Burden of Proof”

As do all good debaters, let us define our terms – ‘burden of proof.” In a model courtroom, if a person is accused of a crime, the prosecutor is charged with collecting adequate evidence to prove the guilt of the defendant “beyond reasonable doubt.” This traditional “burden of proof” is on the prosecutor to prove guilt, not the defendant to prove his innocence.

However, some use this fallacy in ways that violate this universally accepted concept of justice. The fallacy of the burden of proof has switched the responsibility from the prosecutor to the defendant. The person who does the accusing need not prove his case. The accused must prove his innocence. This court is called a “Kangaroo court.” The Soviet “show” trials of the mid-20th century are an example.
Outside the best court system, this fallacy persists in various manifestations.
Injustice is the twisted theme of this perverted “system,” To maintain power, the dictator, the Nazi, the Communist, the Southern redneck and Joseph McCarthy create empty rituals of “justice” devoid of its traditional moral structure. A fearful atmosphere targets a scapegoat as the cause of all ills experienced by the predator. Then charges are invented, a pro-forma “show” trial is held and the punishment is ordered.

The accuser does not have to prove anything. The mere accusation is adequate to indict, convict and execute the victim. The defendant must prove himself innocent. The victim of the rapist must prove her purity. The wounded must prove the shooter guilty. The embezzler must prove his prey at fault. The victim is at fault.
In this atmosphere, the suspicion of guilt, (gossip, hearsay, stereotyping) is adequate to prove guilt. An institutionalized prejudice provides the presumption of guilt without evidence. Witches were burned at the stake based on hysterical accusations. Blacks were lynched on no evidence. Jews were herded into ovens because they were considered the source of all the world’s sins. Americans of Japanese ancestry were put on reservations on suspicion of collaborating with Japan.

When the “burden of proof” is now redefined, “proof” exists only in the eyes of the beholder. It is no as an unbiased, irrefutable set of facts. Merely to say someone is guilty is adequate proof. Resurrecting echoes of 1950s American “Red Scare,” the recent rise of a group of Americans during the run-up to the Mid-Term Elections, created a reality mirage out of their belief systems, invented facts and turned their opinions into facts. Josef Goebbel’s and his “Big Lie” strategy continues to work.
The Holocaust deniers and the global warming opponents are among the latest manifestations of this ubiquitous fallacy.

Since we are human, we are subject to bias, to prejudice. That trait makes us human and fallible. However, unchallenged repeated bias and prejudice becomes embedded and institutionalized in our thinking and our culture. Undoing ingrained bias and prejudice is ultimately the province of the heart, not the mind. Until then, the mind must be alert constantly to challenge “facts” and logical fallacies that sound good but undermine any common sense of reality.
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4. Professor Geo’s “Communication Thought of the Week #7:
Argument is the worst sort of conversation,
observed Jonathan Swift, (1667-1745), Irish satirist and author of Gulliver’s Travels and A Modest Proposal

5. A Note to Communicators:
The Poetic Impulse
Our daily life is populated with the prose of mundane tasks that keep us functioning. Poetry, on the other hand, transcends our quotidian existence and attempts to make sense of it. Poetry seems to make it okay and worthwhile Poetry is l’esprit de la vie.
In 1807, English poet William Wordsworth captured the dismal nature of life with this quatrain
The world is too much with us; late and soon,
Getting and spending, we lay waste our powers;
Little we see in Nature that is ours;
We have given our hearts away, a sordid boon!

The poem continues to document the depressing and hopeless state of mind in which Wordsworth finds himself. Yet merely to have described his mental condition, the poet, one can argue, has transcended it. His poetic expression of the prosody of daily existence transforms it into a moment of universal wonder.

So it is with the poetic impulse. Moments of insight can generate joyous transcendence, offering sustenance to survive. We can no longer contain our emotions so we burst into song, into poetry. We dance with excitement.
Poetry is compressed experience that bursts from its prose context. Language is heightened. A rhyme scheme enforces a ritualistic progression of thought.

Prose is soft; poetry is hard,
Prose walks; poetry dances.
Prose crawls; poetry flies.
Prose can let the mind wander; poetry demands attention.
Prose is constant; poetry is momentary.
One drop of poetry slakes the thirst of prose.
Back to the mundane.

6. Next week’s Conversation:
Wednesday, December 8. 2010 – Room 223 – Midtown
“Talking to Guys/Talking to Girls”
Let’s Try Again!

In the last four years, we’ve talked about this topic at least three times in one form or another. The academic term for conversation between the sexes is “Gender Communication.” John Gray’s 1992 bestseller “Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus” codified the communication difficulties between the sexes in the popular mind. For centuries, the conflict has been called ‘The Battle of the Sexes.” Going beyond sexual attraction to attempt building a relationship is an ongoing challenge for everyone. Some have answers. Others are searching. We’ll share our questions and conclusions
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7. UPCOMING CONVERSATIONS:
What about one of these topics?
“Repetition”
“Meaning”
“Why Does History Repeat Itself?”
“Heroism”
“Concentration”
“Coping with Adversity”
Student Poetry showcase
“Empathy”
“Connecting the Dots”
Role play of Cynical people
“Cold Calling in Sales
“He’s Just Not That into You”
Critical Listening Institute III: “Abbott & Costello’s ‘Who’s On First?’”
“Criticism – Giving and Receiving”
“Logical Fallacies”
“Freedom II”
“Gender Communication II”
“SPAR Debate”
“Distraction II”
“Negotiation II”
“Imagination II”
“Rodney King: ‘Can’t We Just Get Along?’ II”
“Political Savvy”
“Emotions: Anger II”
“Identity Politics”
“Human Rights”
“Capitalism and Socialism”
“Illusions”
“Parenting”
And dozens of others!

Compare the notice of the session with what really happened!

8. What happened on
Wednesday. November 24. 2010 – Room 223 – Midtown
Talking to Guys/Talking to Girls

In the last four years, we’ve talked about this topic at least three times in one form or another. The academic term for conversation between the sexes is “Gender Communication.” John Gray’s 1992 bestseller “Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus” codified the communication difficulties between the sexes in the popular mind. For centuries, the conflict has been called ‘The Battle of the Sexes.” Going beyond sexual attraction to attempt building a relationship is an ongoing challenge for everyone. Some have answers. Others are searching. We’ll share our questions and conclusions.

Nothing happened today because no one showed up. The club meeting should have been canceled on the day before Thanksgiving. People voted with their feet. We’ll try it again on Wednesday, December 8, 2010. See you then.
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We always have a great time exploring these issues. So often our daily life never focuses on these Communication issues. If you have something you want us to discuss please let us know and we’ll add it to the list.

Next time bring a friend. The Communication Club is always an open discussion, limited only by time. Everyone gets a chance to speak. All opinions are welcome. Here is an opportunity for students to challenge professors’ views outside the class without any homework or assignments. You just have to show up and listen and talk if you want.

Hal Wicke

Monday, November 22, 2010

The Touro Communication Club Notes - #129–November 24, 2010
Contents:
1. No quotes about Communication between the sexes.
2. UPCOMING CLUB PROGRAM: - “Talking to Guys/Talking to Girls”
Wednesday, November 24, 2010 @ 2 pm in Room 233.
3. Logical Fallacy of the Week # 19 – “Appeal to Pity”
4. Professor Geo’s “Communication Thought of the Week”
5. Note to Communicators: “The Longest Running War in History”
6. .NEXT WEEK’S TOPIC: “Professor Yearwood discusses T.S. Eliot””
7. Upcoming Conversations - please add your topic to the list
8. What happened last week: ““Ravel’s Bolero”


1. No Quotes about Communication between the Sexes

Sorry, despite my fairly extensive research, I did not find any quotes worthy of repeating on the topic of communication between the sexes. I thought I would find many, but, alas, none seemed to work. Lots of quotes about communication and sexist communication. The gender communication quotes were about the difficulties women face in communication, a worthy topic for another time.
If you have any quotations that you think fit this description, write them at the bottom of the blog.


2. The Touro Communication Club
Wednesday, November 24, 2010 - 2 pm – Room 223 – Midtown
“Talking to Guys/Talking to Girls”

In the last four years, we’ve talked about this topic at least three times in one form or another. The academic term for conversation between the sexes is “Gender Communication.” John Gray’s 1992 bestseller “Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus” codified the communication difficulties between the sexes in the popular mind. For centuries, the conflict has been called ‘The Battle of the Sexes.” Going beyond sexual attraction to attempt building a relationship is an ongoing challenge for everyone. Some have answers. Others are searching. We’ll share our questions and conclusions.


3. Logical Fallacy of the Week #19:
“Appeal to Pity”

I’m almost embarrassed to look at this logical fallacy. My comments will sound so unfeeling and lacking in empathy that I will be considered a dastardly stone. However, duty calls. Reason must prevail over emotion; else the “logical” of logical fallacy fails.

So many people use this fallacy to gain sympathy for their position regardless of other factors. Students have told me:

· My dog ate the homework.
· It is the custom in my country to get drunk when everyone is having a good time, so that’s why I’m unprepared for the exam.
· There was a train fire.
· My alarm didn’t go off.
· I can’t get an earlier train.
· I lost my textbook.
· I couldn’t take the exam because I had to go to my grandmother’s funeral.
· I couldn’t come to class because I had to go on vacation.
· I couldn’t call anyone because I didn’t have their phone numbers.
· I didn’t have money to get to school.

The list is endless and becomes more creative, the greater the avoidance of responsibility. I am supposed to feel sorry for the person and forgive the transgression and allow a make-up.

Then there is the area of “adults” of any category. The technique is to distract the person in charge from giving a rebuke.

· I got lost.
· I forgot.
· My mother (wife, child) is in the hospital.
· I got sick so the report isn’t finished.
And so forth. There are millions of diamonds in this mine.

But the most effective use of this fallacy comes around holiday time. Its purpose is to emotionally blackmail people into giving to one of a thousand charitable causes. You’ve seen the sad picture of the emaciated child or poorly dressed mother and child. Your pity turns into guilt because you feel that you have more than these people.

Many years ago, my performers were doing a television benefit for a muscular dystrophy charity. The singers sang the numbers amidst the crippled children. In the control room, the director said to the camera man, “Zoom in on the crutches. Catch the sad faces. Make the audience cry.” The money poured immediately following the segment. Pity sells.
Finally, a reversal on the appeal to pity: On 23rd Street recently, a homeless man in rags sat on the cold concrete with a sign that said, “I need a beer. I won’t lie to you. Your contribution will help support my habit.’
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4. Professor Geo’s “Communication Thought of the Week #6:
President Woodrow Wilson asks, “If I am to speak ten minutes, I need a week for preparation; if fifteen minutes, three days; if half an hour, two days; if an hour, I am ready now.”

5. .A Note to Communicators:

The Longest Running War in History

We continue to have shooting wars. We continue to have conflicts about civility. We continue to have saber rattling preludes to wars. We pray for peace but prepare for war. History suggests that war is an inevitable result of not trying hard enough to live in peace.

However, the battle of the sexes has raged since Adam and Eve were just glimmers in the eye of the Creator. “We can’t live with them and we can’t live without them,” says the barroom philosopher.

Psychologist John Gray went a long way to popularize the difference between men and women in his 1992 “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.” Deborah Tannen is probably the leading researcher in this area, with her 1990 best seller, “You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation.” A recent entry in gender studies is a neuro-analysis of gender relationships by Louann Brizendine’s “The Female Brain,” which was followed by “The Male Brain.’

The short of these studies is that women and men are wired differently. Not surprisingly, they behave differently. Yet both sexes often expect the opposite sex to behave like him/her. Somehow we know intellectually we are different, yet emotionally we want everyone to behave like us.

Since these observations are not yet part the general popular imagination, the battle of the sexes continues.

The circumstance is further aggravated by the increasing narcissism that if fed by the media and social networking. We are the center of the universe and expect everyone to cater to our every whim. With popular models like Kanye West to follow, it is not surprising that power in any form – money, position, influence – continues to prevail as it always has.

In such a communication climate, listening is a rare commodity. We are too important to listen. We are too preoccupied with our own importance to listen. We are too rushed to listen. We have to fake it until we make it. Fame and celebrity is the coin of the marketplace. It’s all about me.

So why should I bother to listen? Listen is hard. It takes concentration. It takes understanding. It takes an ability to set aside my wants and listen to another’s situation.

Pseudo-listening is on the rise. In my Graduation Education Communication class several years ago, I asked casually if they faked listening. Everyone in the class was married. Everyone admitted freely that they faked listening all the time. Does your partner ever notice it? No, not really, most said.

I was shocked. And these were teachers.

Just one more piece of the communication puzzle fell into place. We are different, yet we think we are the same. We pretend to listen even though we are more interested in ourselves.

I guess the longest running war in history will continue. Sometimes I wonder why anyone even bothers with this Sisyphistic undertaking.

6. Next week’s Conversation:
Wednesday, December 1,2010
2 pm – Room 223 -Midtown
Faculty Colloquy I:
Professor Carlisle Yearwood discusses
T.S. Eliot’s poem “The Waste Land

This event is a milestone in the four year history of the Touro Communication Club. We introduce a traditional university event called a “Faculty Colloquy.” A universal collegiate tradition, a scholar shares his/her serious research with colleagues for discussion and feedback.

That is our goal today. Professor Carlisle Yearwood of Touro’s English Department will share his analysis of the first several stanzas of T.S. Eliot’s landmark poem, “The Wasteland.”

A native of Barbados and a published poet, Professor Yearwood has degrees from Pace University and City College of New York (CUNY). He has owned two bars and a nightclub which focused on talent development in Harlem and was involved with the Civil Rights movement with CORE and created an after school English and business skills program in Harlem. He is a member of the Blind Beggar Press.

Thomas Stearns Eliot (1888-1965) was an American-born English poet, playwright and literary critic, arguably the most important English language poet of the 10th century. “The Wasteland’ was written in 1922. He was awarded the Nobel Prize in Literature in 1948.

7. UPCOMING CONVERSATIONS:

What about one of these topics?
“Repetition”
“Meaning”
“Why Does History Repeat Itself?”
“Heroism”
“Concentration”
“Coping with Adversity”
Student Poetry showcase
“Empathy”
“Connecting the Dots”
Role play of Cynical people
“Cold Calling in Sales
“He’s Just Not That into You”
Critical Listening Institute III: “Abbott & Costello’s ‘Who’s On First?’”
“Criticism – Giving and Receiving”
“Logical Fallacies”
“Freedom II”
“Gender Communication II”
“SPAR Debate”
“Distraction II”
“Negotiation II”
“Imagination II”
“Rodney King: ‘Can’t We Just Get Along?’ II”
“Political Savvy”
“Emotions: Anger II”
“Identity Politics”
“Human Rights”
“Capitalism and Socialism”
“Illusions”
“Parenting”
And dozens of others!

Compare the notice of the session with what really happened!

8. What happened on
Wednesday. November 17. 2010 – Room 223 – Midtown
Critical Listening Institute II – Maurice Ravel’s “Bolero”

In this second session of our effort to sharpen our listening skills, we turn to a famous piece of music, a one-movement orchestral piece by French composer Maurice Ravel, premiered in 1928. “Bolero” gained universal attention when it was commandeered for the 1979 Blake Edwards film comedy, “10” starring Dudley Moore, Bo Derek and Julie Andrews. We are going to listen to the piece twice, once for a general impression followed by a discussion. Then we close with a second hearing. It should be fun to understand how the structure of this particular piece of music created such notoriety.

Last spring, the first Critical Listening Institute program was on Martin Luther King’s “I Have a Dream” speech. The third Critical Listening Institute program will be on Abbott and Costello’s “Who’s On First’ routine.”


This week, most of the club members voted with their feet. Two students, Miriam Sanon and Moche Bengio shared their thoughts with faculty members Charles Mason, Markus Vayndorf, Richard Green, Steve Gradman, Carlisle Yearwood and Hal Wicke. Lorinda Moore stayed long enough to sign the attendance roster.
Most of those present did not know Bolero, although some recognized the tune when Richard played the video of the London Philharmonic conducted by Christoph von Eschenbach – with the video off the first time.

After we listened to the video in the dark, we began to discuss the experience.
Miriam said her favorite music was by C.C. Winans, a famous gospel singer. She finds gospel uplifting and makes her “committed to do the right thing.”

Charles suggested Webster Lewis, the jazz performer, as an important musician in his life.

Rap music has a regular insistent beat similar to Bolero.
Markus pictured an equation (not surprisingly since he is a mathematician.) with short/long sections. The tempo and the repetition of the melody line were gripping. The control of the percussion repeating exactly the same series of notes seemed to be an incredible feat.

Other people thought of music as meditation. Having no words to listen to was important. The mind could wander.

Richard saw in Bolero an image of the progression of birth ritual culminating in its loud climax.

The second time we saw the picture as well as the sound of the video. What was so startling about von Eschenbach’s performance was his stillness. To cue the musicians he would blink or raise his eyebrows or quickly nod his head while his hands were perfectly still. His body was tense as he leaned into certain section of the piece. As Bolero approached its climax, von Eschenbach’s hands came to life in a furious display of a conductor’s histrionics.

The session was interesting in a number of ways;
· We have a long way to go to introduce Touro students and faculty to different kinds of music.
· It is hard to listen to new and different music with an open heart and mind.
· Music can be used more actively than for background music (Elevator music or Hindemith’s “Furniture Musik”)
· If the topic is unknown, the audience stays away because we like what we are familiar with.
· Everyone is busy.
After the video was played a third time for Professor Yearwood who came in late, the discussion veered in a number of directions. Fragments included:
· Contrariness
· Elementary skills build foundations
· Different abilities
· Balancing energies
· Patterns in life, work in life
· Music and math
· The vibration goes deeper and ultimately pleases the ear.
· Music as mediation- displaces the darkness of the self.
· No longer the person you are.
· The majesty of the butterfly – changes are simultaneous
· The Grand theme uniting exterior and exterior
· The story of psychiatrist Viktor Frankl – “Man’s Search for Meaning”
· Hegel – thesis, antithesis, synthesis
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We always have a great time exploring these issues. So often our daily life never focuses on these Communication issues. If you have something you want us to discuss please let us know and we’ll add it to the list.
Next time bring a friend. The Communication Club is always an open discussion, limited only by time. Everyone gets a chance to speak. All opinions are welcome. Here is an opportunity for students to challenge professors’ views outside the class without any homework or assignments. You just have to show up and listen and talk if you want.


Hal Wicke

Sunday, November 14, 2010

The Touro Communication Club Notes - #128–November 17, 2010
Contents:
1. Eight Quotes about Music by Maurice Ravel and 2 poets, one saxophonist and one philosopher.
2. UPCOMING CLUB PROGRAM: - “Critical Listening Institute: Ravel’s ‘Bolero’”
Wednesday, November 17, 2010 @ 2 pm in Room 2233.
3. Logical Fallacy of the Week # 18 – “Misleading Vividness”
4. Professor Geo’s “Communication Thought of the Week”
5. Note to Communicators: “Listening to Music”
6. .NEXT WEEK’S TOPIC: “Talking to Guys/Talking to Girls””
7. Upcoming Conversations - please add your topic to the list
8. What happened last week: ““Money”


1. Four Quotes about Music by Maurice Ravel
“The only love affair I have ever had was with music.”
“Music, I feel, must be emotional first and intellectual second.”
“I begin by considering an effect.”
“I did my work slowly, drop by drop, I tore it out of me by pieces.”
Four Quotes about Music
“Without music, life would be a mistake.”
Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche (1844-1900), 19th century German philosopher
“Music was my refuge. I could craw into the space between the notes and curl my back to loneliness.”
Maya Angelou, (b. 1928), American writer and poet, author “Father Together in My Name

“Music is your own experience, your thoughts, your wisdom. If you don’t live it, it won’t come out of your horn.”
Charlie Parker, (1920-1955), ”Bird” was an American Jazz saxophonist and composer.
“Music rots when it gets too far from the dance. Poetry atrophies when it gets too far from music.
Ezra Pound (1885-1972), American expatriate poet and critic


2. The Touro Communication Club
Wednesday, November 17, 2010 - 2 pm – Room 223 – Midtown
Critical Listening Institute II – Maurice Ravel’s “Bolero”


In this second session of our effort to sharpen our listening skills, we turn to a famous piece of music, a one-movement orchestral piece by French composer Maurice Ravel, premiered in 1928. “Bolero” gained universal attention when it was commandeered for the 1979 Blake Edwards film comedy, “10” starring Dudley Moore, Bo Derek and Julie Andrews. We are going to listen to the piece twice, once for a general impression followed by a discussion. Then we close with a second hearing. It should be fun to understand how the structure of this particular piece of music created such notoriety.

Last spring, the first Critical Listening Institute program was on Martin Luther King’s “I Have a Dream” speech. The third Critical Listening Institute program will be on Abbott and Costello’s “Who’s On First’ routine.


3. Logical Fallacy of the Week #18:
“Misleading Vividness”

Although this is technically not a “logical’ fallacy, it gives evidence of how our brain works. We are drawn to the shiniest objects. We are draw to the prettiest person or thing. We are drawn to the most sensational visual effect. Fireworks always draw a crowd. Vividness is a magnet for our eyes and ear.

And we are fooled.- often. :”All that glistens is not gold,” Shakespeare reminds us in “The Merchant of Venice.” Yet we still are magnetized by the package. People come out of a movie stunned by the visual effects. Who cares about the plot or characters? Great effects = a great movie. We come out of the theatre, whistling the scenic effects.

The fallacy points out how we are affected by sensation. We buy a newspaper for its sensational headline. Celebrity gossip tells us that pretty people have problems, too. As the holiday season appears, the child in us imagines a pretty experience, yet many of us have memories of difficult times during a holiday season.

We learn to “fake until you make it.” So we “Dress for Success” and we learn that we have nothing to say when we open our mouth. The pretty box is empty inside.
Political rhetoric of the campaign is always suspect.. The candidate wants to be elected so he/she speaks inflated poetry. We want our latest political savior to come on his white steed and sweep down a rescue us from jaws of reality.

As long as we recognize our child-like aspirations are just wish-fulfillment, we can operate in a world of sugar plum fairies just so long.. We have to keep in mind, “Fool me once shame on me; fool me twice shame on you.” But then I have to recognize the carnival mirror image as it happens. Sometimes it’s hard and we can get fooled – again.

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4. Professor Geo’s “Communication Thought of the Week #6:
Ernest Hemingway comments, “When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.”

5. .A Note to Communicators:

“Listening to Music”
I spent nearly a decade in the music department of the University of Buffalo, doing opera - producing, directing, designing, building and painting scenery, designing and hanging lights and sweeping the theatre. I was a misfit. I was a theatre person, not a musician. I tried to absorb the ethos of what a classical musician is and does. I hung and focused the lights for famous musicians and watched them perform and argue among themselves. I inhaled music.

On the subway and on the street, I watch people nodding their heads or humming along to their iPods. I can only guess how people listen to music with their iPods because I don’t have one and don’t want one. What I think most people do with their iPods is to let the sound wash over them, engulf them, letting the sound transport them to another plane.

I am the opposite. My theatre and opera experience has conditioned me not to “appreciate” music, but rather to study it as I listen to it. What are the instruments playing now? What is time signature? What are the musical themes and their pattern of repetition? What is the range of the acoustical and rhythmic dynamics? How is the piece constructed to achieve the effect the composer seems to be trying to achieve? My mind is never quiet.

The matter of “like” and “dislike” in music – and most of the arts – is irrelevant. I am working as I listen though no one is likely to be aware of what I am doing inside my head.

I don’t mean to imply that I don’t get absorbed with music. I do. However, that emotional absorption is never complete; my mind is always operating analytically to some degree all the time.

Why should you or anyone care how I listen to music? What I do is ultimately of no concern to you. You are interested in you. I offer this brief reflection on what happens when I listen to music because there might be someone out there that listens to music – or any arrangement of sound – in a different manner.

Please comment.


6. Next week’s Conversation:
Wednesday. November 24. 2010 – Room 223 – Midtown
“Talking to Guys/Talking to Girls”

In the last four years, we’ve talked about this topic at least three times in one form or another. The academic term for conversation between the sexes is “Gender Communication.” John Gray’s 1992 bestseller “Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus” codified the communication difficulties between the sexes in the popular mind. For centuries, the conflict has been called ‘The Battle of the Sexes.” Going beyond sexual attraction to attempt building a relationship is an ongoing challenge for everyone. Some have answers. Other are searching. We’ll share our questions and conclusions.


7. UPCOMING CONVERSATIONS:
What about one of these topics?
“Repetition”
“Meaning”
“Why Does History Repeat Itself?”
“Heroism”
“Concentration”
“Coping with Adversity”
Student Poetry showcase
“Empathy”
“Connecting the Dots”
Role play of Cynical people
“Cold Calling in Sales
“He’s Just Not That into You”
Critical Listening Institute III: “Abbott & Costello’s ‘Who’s On First?’”
“Criticism – Giving and Receiving”
“Logical Fallacies”
“Freedom II”
“Gender Communication II”
“SPAR Debate”
“Distraction II”
“Negotiation II”
“Imagination II”
“Rodney King: ‘Can’t We Just Get Along?’ II”
“Political Savvy”
“Emotions: Anger II”
“Capitalism and Socialism”
“Illusions”
“Parenting”
And dozens of others!

Compare the notice of the session with what really happened!
8. What happened on Wednesday, November 10, 2010?
“Money”

Expect this topic to promote lots of heat. Although money is often invisible in many of our daily activities, its presence or lack of it can provoke the most extreme human behavior. Money can be a measure of self-esteem, a tool for measuring accomplishment, a springboard for greed, a sacrament of poverty, a replacement for love, and on and on. Everyone has a different relationship to money which may be conscious or not. Let’s start the discussion with “The love of money is the root of all evil.”


An exciting new group of students found the topic attractive. Maybe they thought there would be free samples. They included Braudlee Dupuy, Roberto Moel (sp?) and Ladaya Thomas. Robert Gilmore, Peter Bryan and Jamal James had joined us for the Jazz film. Among the familiar faces were Myrtho Leon, Moche Bengio, Miriam Sanor, Gary Sheinfield, Charles Mason, Lorinda Moore, Carlisle Yearwood and Hal Wicke.

The entire discussion was quite spirited with everyone offering their viewpoints and disagreeing in a professional manner. As usual, Hal asked what money meant to each person.

· Money is a necessity.
· “I need it all.”
· “I want a lavish style of living.”
· There is an emotional attachment to money.
· “I have a debate in my mind all the time about money. Should I spend? Why not?”
· “I have money worries.”
· “Money is just paper. I worked in a bank and money is just money. It doesn’t stand for anything.”
· “The value of money is in your mind.”
· “Money is the accept system in America. There is 5% poverty world wide.
· “Money is a way to exchange goods.
· “Money = stability.”
· “As long as I have $3000 cash in my pocket, I feel okay.”
· “No money, no happiness.”
· Moche: “In France there is less money than now. Everything has been
Americanized.”
· “In America, you need money.”
· “You want money to be happy.”
· Money represents more than money itself – it represents value
· America is so materialistic.
· Everyone is right – the collective need vs. the individual desires.
· “Money is not going to buy happiness.”
· “Money can buy the illusion of happiness. You want more things.”
· Gary – “When you talk about money, you talk about everything.”

How many of you are “money driven”?
Yes – 3
No – 5

· Robert - “I don’t need money. I have a free public library card.”
The discussion followed a number of directions – masks, scheming for money, symbols of success, individual greed, demands of society, what’s reality?, etc.

· “Why can’t you be you?” Without masks – between 2 worlds
· Money as evil.
· Money clouds the mind.
· “The minority culture does not support itself.”

Tyler Perry’s new film “For Colored Girls” is an important film and different from his previous films.
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We always have a great time exploring these issues. So often our daily life never focuses on these Communication issues. If you have something you want us to discuss please let us know and we’ll add it to the list.

Next time bring a friend. The Communication Club is always an open discussion, limited only by time. Everyone gets a chance to speak. All opinions are welcome. Here is an opportunity for students to challenge professors’ views outside the class without any homework or assignments. You just have to show up and listen and talk if you want.

Hal Wicke